NTA. I don't think her mom ever will. Redditors are a crazy breed. She said: "My stepdad did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in five weeks time and I'm very grateful for that though this was his decision. That's the ironic part, the ending is basically "don't be an asshole to your nice step mom who did nothing wrong or it'll backfire horrendously", AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! Seek their help and I hope things go well for you. If a 16 year old can't be expected to exercise some common sense, then I weep for the future of the human race. Stay with your uncle without guilt. If you can stay with your uncle, it may be what you and your mom need for the time being. They also had foster kids that shared a room and they were both girls. They are toxic in your life. If you truly wish to be independent from them and to live with your family you need to make sure you go through the right steps because technically in a court of law at your age you can be made to live with them. I 've always considered reddit to be a "forum" but not really a "social media" website, hmm. NTA dear God I just read the synopsis of the lodge. When I was a kid my dad was horrific to be around and I couldn't understand why she stayed and still loved him, same with an aunt who's husband cheated on her but she still loves him and is with him to this day. It wasn't that good but it was like a floral letter. Apologize for what? And me, another of his kids, said they were basically awful people. The Lodge comment would have sealed the deal for me. Come on, just have a small amount of suspicions at least. NTA, protect your kids, those people are crazy. You are better off with your uncle. NTA. I wouldnt even feel bad about this I would just continue living my life. Its one of my favorite older B-movies my dad shared with me. He hasnt said anything to you because he recognizes that youre right and it hurts him. NTA. This is not about the moms feelings in this case. Im just glad op go out of there when they could. Your step siblings are adults, they should know how to act better for crying out loud. For example to the sub for ones with more controversial judgements in top comments. How awful and complicated. And the fact your uncle saw right through thier BS just proves that they are in the wrong on all counts. I'm so sorry for what happened. Are they even remotely nice to you? You're the child in this situation and it isn't your fault for everything that went down. I read in a different comment that the sister is 18? That's what adult temper tantrums and petty vandalism say to me. I hope you stay with your uncle and be around family that actually cares for you. Nope, not one bit. Your mom and your entire step-family are AHs. Privileged much? OP is better off far away from them both. When I became pregnant with my son one of the first things I did was check hospital security. She did nothing to stop the bullying. Holding grudges never be helpful. Your mother and stepfather forced their respective children to share a small room when they did not have a bond, and all because of their blatant sexismthis on top of everything else other people pointed out. They did not say anything of the sort. Your mom also did nothing to set boundaries or punishments for others damaging your property. Probably not just bc any adult who is narcissistic enough to destroy a present to honor and remember a dead father on fathers day is not gonna have the emotional capacity to give a damn. Your sister seems nasty and always looks for a way to get revenge. Did their mom and your dad relationship end before the relationship started between your mom and dad. NTA. Your mum needs to get a grip and stand up for HER OWN CHILD and not someone elses, even if that someone else is now her husband. I think it may have been because hes the oldest. . Why would your dad want you to engage with his children now? They are just bizarre to still be pulling. I'm so sorry you lost your dad so young. Think about the circumstances - your dad dies which sucks, your mom remarries rather quickly and now all of a sudden a relative stranger is sharing your room and on top of that being a jerk about it and ruining your stuff. From how op describes the situation the dad tried his hardest. NGL, the story was giving me the lodge vibes up to the very end. She should be advocating and standing up for you. The fact your family told your mom not to come visit answers your question. While divorce wasn't exactly common, people getting widowed while having children not yet of age very much was, between maternal mortality rates, diseases, and wars. OP has a lot more patience then I do, I would have thrown a fit over everything way before this happened especially with the Step-Dad's insecurities. She allowed them to treat you bad. She did nothing when her husband locked her daughter out of her room. Its a horrible situation but ultimately everyone here is motivated by love. OP, NTA. Srsly. To any decent parent, the choice would be obvious. Spell it out to him. I am certain that the mother will continue enabling the step family and that they financially abused OP during those years. I'd definitely stay the hell away from that mess. You've escaped from a toxic situation and you should stay away as long as you can. AITA For Uninviting My Dad And Stepmom. It'll be interesting to see what happens between the two of them now that OP isn't there to take the fall. If you even think about going back there, you need have have a very frank one-on-one conversation with your mother first. Why are an 18 yo and 20 yo ruining each other's shit??? They took time to think then gave me an ultinatum stating that if our stepdad is coming then they won't be. "Punishing her harder" in reference to your step sister worries me as well. Your mom has not considered your feelings regarding your father, and the fact that she does nothing about how your stepfather and step sister treat you is truly awful. Hormonal needs dont have to be relieved the immediate second they came up, even for teenagers. However, once they became adults, they could have chosen to change their behavior. If someone had done this to me, they'd probably need assistance walking afterwards. The bride replied in the comments that Tim no longer feels comfortable around the men in her family, but he does not want to drive a wedge between her and her family. AND IF GIRLS ARENT SUPPOSED TO BE HAVING SEX WHO DOES SHE SUPPOSE BOYS ARE HAVING SEX WITH? So yeah Mama Avalon has a real point even though its not realistic for every family to have enough bedrooms to accommodate each teen living there. That isn't healthy nor a good way to parent. I know you very explictly told my mom how you'd like her to be killed, would you like to hold my baby? She is their family, and that's should be taken into consideration for understanding her moves. Nope, NTA x1million. Why would any sane person in your situation want to stay there? Their actions are now receiving their consequences. I highly doubt they can find you here unless your dad knows your avatar and told them. I wouldnt move back in or talk to your step family and I would insist on family therapy to repair your relationship with your mom if thats what you want and tell her it is her responsibility to book the appointments. She enabled her new husband and his family to abuse you. Im sorry, I may be over reacting but this post really triggers me. Your mother well she forgot that you lost a dad and you can't get a new one like she got a new love. You have almost nothing of your dads because her new husband doesnt want any reminders of him around? Don't let the toxic assholes back in your life or your child's. They won't want to meet with you, be friends or family with you or bond with you or your baby.I am sorry this makes your dad sad, but it isn't your fault. Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Nta! NTA. I shared growing up, we had one bathroom, it was fucking fine. It wasn't completely unheard of to do that, but it was far from common in the 50s. I'm glad you have good people like your uncle to defend you. My college had double and triple rooms and single bathrooms shared between 4-5 people. Your step-grandparents didn't need to be communicating this along to you. NTA but they all are, I hate the "he's the man" part, you are two girls sharing a small room, the right thing is that you two have the bigger one. You should be cautious about who you surround your child with. NTA but PLEASE make sure you get your SS checks changed to where you are living now. My grandparents had the same attitude regarding their home. They nuked that bridge from orbit, they can't cross it any more. While I feel for your mom in all this, because, maybe she simply does not get how bad things are, or really how petty your stepsiblings are, so maybe she simply does not get it, but you are doing the right thing by getting out of that house by any means you can muster up and get it done, if that means you need to step on a few toes to make that happen.. But you said it beautifully. I thought this too and we trialled it for a while. All of it, You must be joking.she didnt deserve all of it and they brought her in the mess, https://www.reddit.com/r/help/comments/66jycz/how_does_reddit_determine_what_is_controversial/. Im sorry. I am sorry for your loss. Theyre grown ass adults who are now responsible for their own feelings. She did marry a guy who belittled your father's legacy because of his own insecurities and was an accomplice in locking you out of your own room. You didn't move out because of one incident, you moved out because it's a toxic environment that has proven to be increasingly hostile and violent towards you. Just a thought for you to consider. Your mom failed you. It's hard to live like that, feeling like an alien in your own home. C'mon. When it came to spiting OP though, SS went for her Fathers Day gift??? NTA: depending on where you live, you have strong grounds to become legally emancipated. Take your time. Hope youre able to salvage something for your dad. Nta, you have been failed multiple times. Was it unbearable? Frankly, I side eye him. Your mother failed you in every step of this. Stay away as long as possible. Lol, If a 16 year old can't be expected to exercise some common sense. Exactly, and honestly OP might want to have a talk with their Uncle about filing for guardianship (if they are in the states), that way uncle would be legally responsible for OP and mom and step dad cant file police reports for a runaway or a kidnapping. The fact your stepfather took away all of your father's belongings from you is disgusting and downright disrespectful to you. My 14 and 11 year old brothers share a bedroom. Youre right, the judgement was decided well before we read the flower box was destroyed. NTA. And she knew the odds of her getting away with it were good so she did it with that in mind. If I were you, I wouldn't go back. She married an insecure, immature man who clearly did not raise his children well - 20 & 18yos damaging each others property purposefully? NTA, my goodness, Im so sorry you lost your dad. No relationship to salvage here. Suddenly grandparents and relatives alike are pissed and entitled to see the blood of the other blood they didnt give 2 shits about. Your mother is the AH for not protecting you and ensuring that you were safe and protected. Do NOT go back to your mother and let the family be mad at her. Bless your Uncle for his kind heart and loyalty to you and his blood. It sounds like you're basically a guest in your room and are only ever allowed to be there to sleep, but other than that it's your stepsister's. FYI, its coddled, not cuddled. Way different meaning! It would be reasonable to go totally no-contact with your mom, stepfather, and stepsister, because these types of people will pretend to be sorry only in order to manipulate you. It sounds like you're basically a guest in your room and are only ever allowed to be there to sleep, but other than that it's your stepsister's. Your mother needs to get her priorities straight. Also, if you're in the US, you should be receiving survivors benefits from your father's social security. She did nothing as she watched you get bullied and abused in your own home by everyone around you. I hate when a parent moves on and just dismisses their kids feelings and let's the step parent get away with throwing out things that meant something to the kid. The family told mom not to come visit on father's day and are angry with her because I moved out over this. My mother and my 3 aunt shared one room with double bunkbeds whule my 4 uncles shared one room with double bunkbeds. Please check into it. She doesnt want you to return home because shes sorry. She has allowed the creation and escalation of a toxic situation where you are at least emotionally if not physically unsafe. NTA. no. However, the bride-to-be lived with her mum and her husband and during that time they established a good relationship. This is the straw that broke the camels back. That entire side of the family is begging you to cut them out of your life. But she should still treat OP like a person, not an obstacle. It's not even about the ruined gift or retaliation. Not going to happen. God I love that movie. * NTA. NTA. Thats odd to me. Not sure how a therapist fits into that scenario, but it had to be asked. Theres no reason for you to try to force one. They need therapy. Shoot it doesn't even have to be about that. Man I had no idea /s. It's her new family that's doing this to you, it's her responsibility to shut them the hell down), I'd be wary about moving back in when you're forced to share a room with someone who has absolutely no concern for other people. That support should go until you are 18, or until you graduate high school, whichever comes second. Step sis knowingly damaged her brother's properly, and punished you because he lied to get you to help him destroy something of hers. It doesn't sound like she will be thriving at "home". And I am pretty sure that she will discover that inheritance money and social security money intended for her went to the step-family. Someone can take the living room or dining room or they can come up with a schedule. Not new, step families happened all the time in history. Newsweek reached out to u/Throwawayfamily976 but did not receive comment in time for publication. Your mum doesn't care about anyone but herself as long as she has an easy life. Stay free. It sounds like your stepsister and stepbrother are monsters to each other - destroying each others' stuff is not normal, especially for their ages. NTA. Your mom deserve to know how you feel about all this. NTA. NTA. She birthed you, but has no maternal attachment to you. Thats vile. Take care of yourself, take care of your mental health. NTA she should rephrase "she did nothing and deserves to be shunned by yiu". NTA. what is it about becoming pregnant that suddenly makes one more if a public.. property, for lack of a better word? Yeah, these kids have never learned anything about healthy conflict resolution, and sounds like have never faced any kind of real consequences for their actions. I'm thankful you have your uncle. Like, can y'all read? "She recently accused me of stealing her tools and convinced her dad to get a lock so now I'm being forcefully locked out and can't get in til after a huge argument and getting mom involved.". wtf, how the fuck does that happen?! Your ("immediate") family sounds like they are all emotional leeches. When OP said, man she might have been saying hes an adult cause hes 20. Guess whose job it is to address this? Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. Only 3 years ago were we lucky enough to find a well-priced home with 5 bedrooms, enough for everyone to have their own and my husband and I have a gaming room in the last one. When you said "this is why I think he's an AH" I thought you were referring to him failing to stop them from turning out like this. Especially if ONE GETS TO LOCK THE OTHER OUT OF A SHARED SPACE I CANT GET OVER THAT PART. Yep, I (29f) started with the smallest bedroom while my brother (35m) had the medium room. Your stepdad and step siblings all sound awful. And takes no responsibility for destroying a memorial to your dad. NTA, sweetheart! NTA but your mom, stepfather, and stepsister are TA. My best guess is that he hasn't asked them about it because he already knows how they'll react. You are NTA in this situation. NTA. Yeah I hope he stays at the Uncle's. An "even harsher" punishment is not going to change her. <~~~ but you dont have to tell him that last part. And then the behavior of the older two was ignored until it resulted in her artwork for her dad's memorial being destroyed. NTA! I'm glad you can rely on your uncle, because you can't rely on your mother. these people are genuinely scary. Im only surprised your Dad doesnt see that. NTA, your mother has allowed your step dads blatant favouritism and turned a blind eye as you are abused , treated like a second class citizen, and disrespected constantly in your home, whilst all memory of your father is disregarded and ignored. NTA, but to me it is so weird your stepbrother and stepsister break each others stuff when they are mad (especially something sentimental like your fathers day present). It's where she being allowed to sleep and locked out of during the day. Yeah and I am not criticising or blaming the OP, I am just making s point, a point that you now are saying you agree with. He was awful anyway but I mostly hated it because we had no neutral family space. Moreover, it seems like your whole life has been shunted to the side for the benefit of her new family, her husband's shitty puerile insecurities and her step-children's inability to get along. I'm so sorry that happened. NTA I'm so glad your family is angry at your mother. The stepchildren are asses for acting worse than literal 9 year olds. Her Step Sister is 18, an adult that shouldnt act like a child and should know how to share, 4) her step sister locks her out of her own room during the day every day, with parents blessing. And your mom is absolutely right! Do you at least still have that picture of you and your mum? I am so glad your uncle is defending you and looking after you. You having a baby doesn't make any difference at all. They didn't and continued to act in a toxic manner, which gives you every right to exclude them. Look after your mental health. You get locked out of your own room by your stepsister? NTA, Im sorry you had to go through any of this. Talk to mom several times a day. NTA. They're seriously toxic and have no place in a decent family. Your mom knew your immature older stepsister was harassing you like this, but she let it all continue. You deserve to be in your own space and it sounds like you didn't have time to grieve your father's passing. Some of us had large families. Thank goodness you have your uncle to help. She did nothing. saying she did nothing to deserve to be shunned. You should always protect your child first. Your mom failed you and you need to do what's best for you. First part, wholeheartedly agree, second part, not so much. Your situation was already toxic once your stepdad refused to let you keep your fathers belongings and your mom didnt stand up for you. NTA. She is enabling Abuse and you need to make a stand. My 'dad' has done something similar with my sibling that has caused hatred towards my mother. Why are step parents so bad? Did it upset the grands that their gchildren would speak that way about other, or only when others mirrored their words back them? And when I said sorry it upsets you so much I was being genuine, it was not meant to be an AH move but fair enough then, while it brings me no pleasure I am certainly not sorry it upsets you so much. He has his own room because he is the only boy. They just kinda meshed everything together soon after OP's father died and got rid of the dad's stuff without even considering her feelings in all of this. And oh my god there is so much going on in your life. Even when we were older they still shared because there was literally no other space until they moved out. Again, it's really simple to understand. The mom seems incredulous at the idea of her having done something wrong, so spelling it out and explicitly saying she allowed it to happen makes sense. If it will be emotionally overwhelming to do it over phone, text her. Theyre adults now and still think your mom enacted a curse to kill their mother? This is what I came to say. As if everyone was waiting for her character to get punished. And your mom is okay with that? should have been your answer. Stay with your uncle. Your mother is a failure as a mother, and she deserves all the shunning she gets. They have been for years. Who you still make Father's Day stuff for? In fact I think you have been more that accommodating. You literally lost your Dad and didnt have nearly as big of a meltdown as those two. Consider suggesting some family therapy. I recommend taking context into consideration before making a fool of yourself, not after. I am glad that you have extended family to be there for you. NTA. Its a common aspect of living in the real world . Ironically, this is addressed in The Lodge. He understands and justs wants you to be there, that is the best gift. It sounds like your uncle is supportive and loving. But OPs mom said ONLY boys need big beds. This is only because your uncle berated them. Probably unrelated, but I would be interested to know what SS "harsh punishment" is - whatever it is probably isn't even close to adequate. If my kids dad died, I would never allow an insecure man to demand his memory be erased from the home. Get as far from them as you can. OP I hope youre able to have the loving and respectful environment you deserve from now on. Youve been abandoned and that has to hurt so bad and its perfectly fine to emotionally express that hurt, pour your heart out to another person, work through the pain and let it go eventually. In the words of Tyrion Lannister, she has done nothing. She did nothing to defend her daughter. Just losing a parent is a major change and then to lose your private sleeping space and every household reminder of your parent that you lost - it's just too much. NTA, Im happy youre with your uncle. I would also ask her to go to family counseling, just you and her. And even more so now that youre going to be a mother. I can guarantee you that they see her as the bad guy and them as the victims. Not a good sign & shows how poorly your step-dad has raised them. involves the court and proves that she will always have your best interests). it's pretty much that urge to do something just to see someone's reaction or to see what would happen mixed with a lack of empathy or morals. I understand him, as a father, wanting his kids in each other's lives, but this seems like a situation where you just wait and see rather than bringing up something that would likely get an upsetting answer for. List all the crap step father and sister have done and all the things your mother neglected. While your step family is awful, its your mom who is the real AH. Except: I don't think that's genetic it's learned behaviour. As soon as I read that part I knew that this would be a doozy and hoo boy. Im truly sorry that she ruined it. It sounds like you have a lot of Trauma associated and rightfully so. "Oh, you have to be nice to Susie, you know she just gets upset if things aren't just right, that's just how she is". I think you need help and to be out of that situation. That woman is not your mother. If your mom wants to fix things so badly and your stepdad wants to do right by you, why are you not allowed to have your actual dad's things? Tell your mother it's either her husband or her daughter. There is no way OP is going to qualify for emancipation based on anything in this post. She's just as much of a Problem for marrying an insecure f who didn't let you keep stuff from your dad. Not only would I keep them disinvited, I'd go no contact completely.". /s. NTA. Why on Earth would OP want to live with those people?! Your brother gets his own room because he is a man, but your sister is a woman and doesnt get one? This whole family is utterly dysfunctional. NTA. Wtf? Remember this when you turn into an adult. NTA. You were living in an emotionally negative place, and thankfully you have your Uncle to help out. Also, I really really hope you are talking to a therapist. My dad ended up making the converting the garage into bedrooms, lol. You were honest and spoke the truth. Your siblings sound awful--esp step sister. :-(. Heed our words when we say STAY AWAY! It is relatable for you, but still not good. NTA - It's tragic, they are definately victims of their mother's upbringing, and it's really heartbreaking for your dad but that's not on you to solve. College kids across the land manage just fine. Agreed, NTA. Congratulations on getting free. If I was OP's mom and stepdad I would be telling stepbro and sis that if they're going behave like toddlers throwing tantrums and destroy other people's stuff as adults living at home, they can start looking for their own places to live. Parents always had this idea that their kids have to deal with whatever decisions they make for them. Or saying, if Rhoda were my kid, a good spanking would put the fear of God in her and everything would be fine.. Masturbation is not the most important thing in the world. Not sure what's going on with the mom. Let those who celebrate with you enjoy your happiness, everybody else can be forgotten. As an adult u get to choose who you engage with and who you don't. I think it's a good thing that you got out. Honestly, it was a hostile, toxic and negative environment. This movie called The Lodge came out and they told her she deserved what one of the characters had done to her. NTA. You and your uncle might consider calling CPS and/or suing your mom for custody. NTA, stepsister in particular sounds really toxic. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. The bride-to-be took to Reddit's AITA forum to explain her story. Your mother failed to protect you from SD's insecurities and SS's cruelty. These things are not cure-alls that work 100% of the time. NTA New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. She is not protecting you. You should clearly articulate how she has failed you over all the years. NTA. Still doesnt warrant attacking him in any way. (So was I by then though.). If your uncle is from your dads side or you are in contact with your dads side of the family, see if they have any mementos that you can have. I lost my dad a few years back too and it's really tough on father's day. The whole stepfamily is awful, and the mom is despicable for exposing OP to them. Or that someone who truly loved their partner would at least need some time to grieve before moving on. (or see you at all). I sometimes did homework or read books in there because it was the only place I could get some peace and quiet. She did nothing. And your stepsister is seriously unhinged. There comes a point in life when that just isn't true anymore. Your stepbrother also was an AH lying to you to get the paintset and make you his accomplice; in the end its also his fault that his sister took her anger out on you. if you do move back demand your own room, so your step brother and step sister can deal with themselves. She hasn't supported you. She came into my room one day and complain about a picture of me and my mum. It sounds like you are living in a nightmare. You deserve a family that cares about you all the time, that shows you respect, that listens, and that treats you like you belong. It made me cry too :( OP, that is such a beautiful, thoughtful gift for your dad. Do not go back unless they are at least willing to give you your own room and demand that step-sister attends therapy with you all if she is to stay. And your mom and stepdad are insensitive as eff. Or gone along with it enough at the very least. 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